I hope Oscar Wilde will forgive me from beyond the grave for borrowing his quote.

For me, authenticity is one of the most important qualities or characteristics anyone can possess. Authenticity is easy to avoid, because you don’t have to be in Hollywood to be a good actor. But what is authenticity? For me, the answer is simple. It’s being true to who you really are at your core: your true inner self; the real you. Here are the key benefits to living an authentic life:

  • You don’t have to adopt and struggle to maintain a false, inauthentic persona for the benefit of others.
  • If you’re inauthentic, you’ll pursue false aspirations and desires, along with bogus goals. That’s all you can pursue when you’re not being yourself. Authenticity frees you to achieve goals you truly want, ones that reflect your true desires.
  • When you’re authentic, you’re trustworthy and reliable, because you’re genuine and open, not lurking behind some role you’ve created for the world to see.
  • Authenticity allows you to say to the world, “This is me. Accept me as I am or don’t accept me at all. There isn’t any more; no hidden personality that you’ll never see; no secret agenda and no deceit. Take me as I am and I’ll do the same for you.”

I must admit that being authentic is scary. Human beings have an innate ability to be different things to different people and it feels safe to have a persona within which you can hide the real you. On the other hand, it takes courage and confidence to open yourself up to the world and live your truth. But the rewards are immense.

Once you master the art of being the real you, life will become easier, more enjoyable and infinitely more rewarding. You will boost your self-confidence, raise your self-esteem and increase your belief in yourself. Who doesn’t want those things?

So how will you know when you’re being authentic? It’s an intuitive and instinctive judgment. We all have a place deep in our hearts where we can’t fool ourselves and your heart will tell you the truth. That truth will inspire you, because you’ll be in spirit and not just in form.

You’ll also know from the reactions of people around you. Some won’t like your authenticity for all kinds of reasons. If they know they can’t replicate it, for example, they may be envious of you. But the people who matter and genuinely care for you will be delighted. They may have already caught glimpses of who you really are and will revel in your permanent emergence from the shadow world of pretense. Here are a few things you can do to help move you towards authenticity:

  • Put aside every opinion you’ve ever heard from others about who you are and the persona and characteristics you possess. Decide for yourself who you are at your core and what kind of person you want to be.
  • Define your dreams. What are the things you love doing and what do you want to achieve with your life? Decide what it is that you feel passionate about.
  • Discard any mistaken identities you’ve taken on for the benefit of others. Ignore what other people want you or need you to be. Live the identity and persona you want to have.
  • Recognize that you are a unique individual with unique skills, traits and personal characteristics.
  • Define the goals in life that you truly want to achieve for yourself and develop a plan that will move you closer to meeting them.
  • Live in the moment, anchored in the present, ignoring the past and not being apprehensive about the future. If you find yourself speculating about the future, be as factual and realistic as you can in imagining how life might unfold for you.

I feel so strongly about this topic that I’ve written a short book about it! And I’m giving it away! Click the image below to download your free PDF, no obligation or email required. I wish you success in your new-found career as the real you!

Notes From The Road To Authenticity by John Scriven


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Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts by John ScrivenI haven’t posted to this blog for a while, because in July, 2015, I was diagnosed with cancer. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was about to become very glad that I’d written a book called Get Rid of Negative Thoughts.

Earlier in the month, I’d noticed a lump on the left side of my neck. It didn’t cause me pain, but it was growing. Some instinct told me to get this checked out. My primary care physician is a good diagnostician, but he was baffled by this lump, which was disturbing. He referred me to an Ear, Nose and Throat specialist who sent me for a biopsy. In early August, the shattering results came in. I had B-Cell Lymphoma in two places in my neck.

The first thing I learned was that if this aggressive type of cancer goes untreated, you measure your life expectancy in months. I was sent for a full body scan but was not able to take it because I had high blood sugar levels. I went back to my GP and he diagnosed me with diabetes.

At that moment I was deluged in negative thoughts such as denial and disbelief, a whiny “why-me” bunch of thoughts and a feeling of how unfairly life was treating me. I don’t deserve this, I wailed to myself. But I’d written a book about these kinds of moments and I immediately recognized that I couldn’t afford the luxury of negative, self-pitying thoughts. I had to fight off my Mind Gremlins and go positive right away. And I did. I determined that I would beat both these diseases and would reaffirm that fact constantly throughout my treatment with inspiring thoughts about winning my battle.

In the meantime, I’d been referred to Atlanta Cancer Care and was lucky to be taken on by Dr. Seay (pronounced See) who was something of a rock star in the cancer world. I immediately trusted him and his prognosis. He recommended 6-8 treatments of R-Chop chemotherapy, which consisted of the IV infusion of a cocktail of drugs. He warned me not to listen to other people’s war stories about chemo, because every patient reacted differently. Unfortunately, I didn’t react well.

The first two treatments weren’t too bad, but after treatment three I felt exhausted, with intense fatigue, weakness and nausea. Every treatment thereafter became more difficult as I grew weaker and suffered chemo-induced nerve damage.

But my resolve to beat this affliction held firm as I put into practice everything I’d written about in Get Rid of Negative Thoughts. There was another vital factor in my recovery and that was the loving support of my partner Georgia. She took me to every medical visit and sat through every chemo treatment with me, even though it was very tedious for her. The love and support she gave me was a huge factor in keeping up my spirits.

Finally, after a seven-month slog, I was declared cancer free at the end of February this year. It was a very happy day. Chemo was brutal, but it saved my life. I wouldn’t have survived without this treatment, which took care of the physical side of the disease, but neither would I have survived without overcoming negative thoughts, which took care of the mental side of my treatment. All my powers of positive thinking were required to withstand the effects of chemotherapy. I believe that generating positive thoughts helped to boost my depleted immune system and increase my strength to fight off this horrible illness.

I am now getting better with every passing day and I thank God that I wrote a book called Get Rid of Negative Thoughts. For more details on this life-saving book, watch the video below.

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